Get support to quit

Posted by DrMendelsohn on 3 September, 2013

Suggest ways your family and friends can help you quit:

  • Add to your supply of cigarette substitutes (like cinnamon sticks or healthy foods)
  • Fix a favorite meal or invite you out for lunch or dinner.
  • Help you change routines to cut down temptations to smoke, like joining you for an after-dinner walk instead of staying at the table.
  • Help you to find ways to keep busy.
  • Praise or celebrate your progress.
  • Remind you that things will get easier.
  • Take your mind off smoking with a movie.
  • Ask how you are doing and let you know they care.

Suggest ways they can keep from getting in your way, like:

  • Not doubting that you can quit or stay smoke-free.
  • Never offering you a cigarette.
  • Not joking about you going back to smoking.
  • Not being critical of your smoking or your efforts to quit.

Be specific about ways they can help. Only you know what kind of support will be best for you.

People who do not support you

People in your life who may not be supportive include unsympathetic nonsmokers, current smokers, or former smokers who try to impose their own views on ways to quit.

Dealing with friends who smoke may take extra effort. You may want to point out that just because you are quitting doesn’t mean they have to. The decision to quit is a personal one.

Let them know that they can help in other ways by:

  • Never offering you a cigarette, even in a kidding way.
  • Not smoking around you, especially when you are trapped (like in the car or at the dinner table).
  • Understanding if you need to stay away from smoking events you used to share with them for a while after you quit (such as at your weekly card game or book club).


Source: Clear Horizons. A quit smoking guide for people 50 and older. NCI. 2013

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